Whether it’s anxiety about paying the bills, guilt at spending, or feelings of inadequacy over our income, polls frequently show money to be a leading source of worry, and one of the main causes of rows between couples. Even the rich aren’t immune, according to Capgemini’s annual World Wealth Report, with top concerns for millionaires in 2015 ranging from how they will maintain their lifestyle to whether their offspring will mismanage their inheritances.
So how do we make peace with our bank statements and instead spend the wee hours calmly contemplating whether that car alarm will ever stop? The answer, at least according to some, lies not in spreadsheets and interest calculators, but in financial therapy. A burgeoning field in the US, where the five-year-old
Financial Therapy Association counts more than 250 members, financial therapy combines traditional financial advice with a more touchy-feely psychological exploration of what is driving a client’s behaviour towards money.
It doesn’t come cheaply, of course, but financial therapists say we should think twice before rolling our eyes: they claim our emotional issues around money could be the exact reason we don’t have more cash to pay our bills.
They say the way we treat money is influenced less by logic and more by deep-seated beliefs that we are often unaware we hold. We may grow up watching our parents struggle with money and subconsciously develop negative, fearful emotions towards it, for example.
Low self-esteem can lead to the self-fulfilling prophecy that we will never make enough to be comfortable. “The obstacles that keep us from having more and being more are rooted in the emotional, psychological and spiritual conditions that have shaped our thoughts,” writes US financial expert Suze Orman in The Road to Wealth: A Comprehensive Guide to Your Money. “In other words, what we have begins with what we think.”
Financial therapists aim to identify and tackle a client’s psychological “blocks” about money through a mixture of established therapy techniques, such as asking them to recall early memories or write down word associations, and classic financial planning tools such as balance sheets and cash flows.
Practitioners tend to come from backgrounds that include psychology, marriage or family therapy, mental health, social work and financial planning, and what they offer depends on their training. A psychologist won’t necessarily be able to advise on Isas, for instance.
The practice has yet to make it to Britain – although Kristy Archuleta, president of the Financial Therapy Association, believes it is only a matter of time – but financial coaches such as Simonne Gnessen tread similar ground. The co-author of Sheconomics and founder of Brighton’s Wise Monkey Financial Coaching, Gnessen came to coaching via a course in neurolinguistic programming.
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